Many fears that people experience are a short cut to a fear of not being in control or a fear of change. For many, their greatest fear revolves around fear of rejection or fear of abandonment, which can manifest in a wide range of scenarios. The Universal Law of Control states that when you control your thoughts, then you are able to control your feelings, and therefore you control your inner happiness. But how do you do this? Start with reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and make diligent efforts to practice the strategies he writes about.
When someone creates an unconscious fear, they incorporate it into their life with self limiting actions (e.g. a person with a fear of rejection within relationships will develop problems with attachment/bonding/commitment). They may also choose to feel 'nothing' as that feels safer that feeling something that is too emotionally painful for them. This is where addictions can begin, by numbing themself with alcohol, drugs, food, sex etc. RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy) aims, through hypnosis, to relax the conscious mind in order to access subconscious memories and locate the root cause - what incident occurred in the person's life to alter their train of thought to a negative self belief? It doesn't necessarily have to be a major trauma, because if the person was a young child at the time, they were thinking with the mind of a young child. So even a simple event such as a child perceiving their sibling is preferred over them can give birth to feelings of resentment that grow over time so by the time they reach adulthood they fully believe they are not loveable and will always be alone or have their heart broken.
And if the person has experienced a very traumatic event, whilst you will never be able to normalize the event that happened, you can normalize the reaction and help people understand the mind did what it felt was necessary to protect them at the time. Our minds are fascinating and creative and we should never punish ourselves for doing or thinking what we thought was best for us at the time. Ultimately no one can ever really reject you unless you give them permission to do so. You are the only thinker in your mind, and thus you get to decide how you feel about a situation. My job as an RTT therapist is to help my client to find the limiting belief they created and free them from it. What self limiting thoughts do you have that are holding you back from being the best version of you?
